The Healing We Deserve — For Them, and For Ourselves

 

Inspired by the quote:
"Heal because you have children who don't deserve the broken version of you. Heal, because you never deserved the broken version of yourself." - Inside Parenting 

There's a moment — often quiet, sometimes tear-filled-when you realize healing isn't just about moving on from what hurt you. It's about reclaiming your power, rewriting your story, and making space for the kind of love and presence your children deserve. 

Motherhood has a way of shining a light on our unhealed places. The moments when our patience wears thin. The moments when old wounds get loud in new ways. The moments when we hear ourselves repeating words we swore we never would. An in those moments, the guilt can be loud... but so can the call to heal. 

We often think we're healing for them—our children. And yes, they deserve the healthiest, safest, most grounded version of us. They deserve the mama who laughs freely, who shows up consistently,  and who models what it looks like to walk though the pain and still choose love. 

But here's the part we often overlook: you didn't deserve the broken version of you either. 

You were never meant to carry that weight alone. You were never meant to believe the lie that your pain made you feel unworthy, or that you had to keep suffering just because that's what you've always known.  

You're allowed to heal loudly. You're allowed to rewrite what motherhood looks like for your own family. You're allowed to say, "This stops with me." 

And on the days when healing feels heavy or slow, I hope you remember this: every brave step you take toward wholeness is a gift to your children—but it's also a love letter to the little version of you who's been waiting for this peace.

Let this be your reminder, mama: you are not too far gone, too late, or too broken to become who you were always meant to be. 
And you never ha to be perfect to be worthy of healing. You just had to be willing. 

With you,
Ariella's Mama